i'm really glad i've found this site a week ago.
reading some of the stories and comments on here has really helped.
there are so many out there who's lives have been ruined by the so-called truth.. i was brought up in the truth as an elders daughter, youngest of 5, a brother and sister had been disfellowshiped, other brother had left as a teenager and my other sister is still sitting on the fence aged 40 going on 15, if she'd made a decision instead of sitting on the fence i'm convinced she wouldn't be the alcoholic mess she is today!
One book that really helped me was "The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse'......you would think it was written by people that were JW's, but it isn't.
(Been out of PC action for a couple of days)
Codeblue, can you remember who wrote the above book? I want to go shopping this week and purchase?
I've already ordered Crisis of Conscience but it's going to take 3 weeks to get here !
i hate to see so many of the movie stars that i sort of grew up with dieing now.
it reminds me that i'm next and i like living too much to die now.
i just can't feel comfortable with that idea.
I always thought it was "MILLIONS NOW LIVING WILL NEVER DIET"I just presumed it was all to do with those people on Jerry Springer who eat a couple of bargain buckets of KFC for breakfast and supper and a few in between.
Sheesh, I'm going to have to go back to the meetings and pay attention this time.
First of all - yay i've actually worked out how to do this quoting thingy !!!
Secondly, Simon you nearly made me fall of my chair - or should that be fomcl???
I'm glad i wasn't the only one who daydreamed my way through the meetings !
hello all just got our pro wedding pics thought i would share a few...it was really hard to pick the best ones.
enjoy .
luv es .
Beautiful pictures, you look so happy. May the love and laughter last last forever.
this is a poem dedpoet wrote for me, he gave it to me a few minutes ago, and i think it is so lovely i just have to post it (he doesn't mind).
i hope you like it, i know i will treasure it for the rest of my life.
for linda.
That was beautiful and very fitting.
when anyone talks about the jw's the only thoughts that wiz through my mind is, emotional misfits!
yesterday, my sister-in-law stopped by and spoke to my wife for close to two hours.
yes, it was about pass problems with her husband and the elders.
Crumpet I know exactly where you're coming from !
I've lost count of the amount of times i've done things to try and fit in with everyone else to stop myself from being so different and fallen flat on my face in humiliation in the process - it's impossible and I'm surprised my liver has lasted all the drunkeness i've put it through trying to forget about the whole religion thing.
After spending years trying to fit in, i'm glad that i'm different - my friends think i'm a complete loony but i actually enjoy looking at things from a different perspective to them.
Thank god for being different, and yes i'm a completely mad emotional misfit but i'd rather be that than stuck in teenage hell.
i hate to see so many of the movie stars that i sort of grew up with dieing now.
it reminds me that i'm next and i like living too much to die now.
i just can't feel comfortable with that idea.
John Spencer died?? No way !
Gutted, he was one of the main reasons i was watching the West Wing !
i hate to see so many of the movie stars that i sort of grew up with dieing now.
it reminds me that i'm next and i like living too much to die now.
i just can't feel comfortable with that idea.
Yeah there's a few I recognise and knew had died, Ronnie Barker was one of my favourites - fellow brit and fantastic!
Didn't know James Doohun or Luther Vandross had died though.
i hate to see so many of the movie stars that i sort of grew up with dieing now.
it reminds me that i'm next and i like living too much to die now.
i just can't feel comfortable with that idea.
Hi Undecided. Who are they? I've not kept up with the news and surely some of them must be Brits, being a huge movie fan myself i must have heard of them.
i'm so excited , i'm almost giddy .
wow ,ray has a lot to say, these books are thick !
which one should i start with or does it matter ?
oh fantastic.
Ta very muchly, will pop off and have a look now.
let's say you go back to your hometown for a family funeral.
you're not df'd or da'd, but most haven't heard from you for many years.
you know you'll get the inevitable "so are you going to meetings?
My dad died three years ago, he was a very respected elder in the congregation and although my family is in two halves (one side now 1.5 people witnesses the rest not) we all attended the cremation. It might sound incredibly stupid or naive but i went with a completely different hairstyle (i'm naturally curly but went straight) and didn't wear anything that I would have worn back in the day. It worked for a lot of the people there, especially the busy bodies who would have cornered and surrounded me - by the time they worked out who I was i'd scarpered and was talking to other people or had disappeared.
It didn't fool everyone though but it made me feel better knowing that i'd changed so much since i left and nothing any of them could say wanted me to go back, or even talk to them outside of the crematorium. I did get the obvious comments (and one person really p'd me off and i wanted to swing for him) but i smiled and said thank you for coming or you're looking well or thank you for your condolences and walked away. No scene, no members of the family glaring at me for being rude.
Of course, all situations are different but if you're calm and polite (despite what you'd like to say them or tell them where to go) and try and keep away from the people you know will give you a hard time it'll be ok.
Hope all goes well and remember, it may have been so long they'll hardly recognise you.
